Unpopular opinion about yourself: a habit people assume is good but isn't?

[QuantumLeap34]

Fun variation on the usual icebreaker, share a personal habit that people generally assume is virtuous or healthy but that you honestly think is actually working against you specifically. Could be something like constant busyness, always saying yes to things, or relentless self improvement itself. Doesn't need to make total sense to anyone else, just genuinely your own honest take on your own habit

Curious what personal habit people are willing to admit isn't actually the virtue it looks like from the outside. Share yours below and let people try to change your mind if they disagree

[Cosmos Builder]

Constantly saying yes to every single request people make of me looks generous from the outside but honestly leaves me genuinely exhausted and resentful more often than not. People assume it's a positive trait but I think it's actually just poor boundary setting dressed up nicely. Would love someone to actually change my mind on this one though

[SpikeDudley07]

My relentless self improvement habit, always reading another book or learning another skill, looks genuinely productive from the outside but I honestly think it sometimes functions as avoidance of just sitting still and being present. People compliment the habit constantly without seeing that specific underlying pattern. Productivity and genuine peace aren't always the same thing apparently

[Glenn_70]

Staying busy and multitasking at all times looks admirably productive but I genuinely think it's just anxiety wearing a productive looking disguise for me specifically. People praise the busyness without seeing what's actually driving it underneath. Slower and more present would probably serve me better honestly, even though it looks less impressive from outside

[CrimsonFury]

Always being the reliable one who never cancels plans looks admirable but has genuinely cost me real rest and recovery time I actually needed on plenty of occasions. Reliability's generally seen as a virtue without much nuance. Think mine specifically crosses into something less healthy at times

[Teal Shannon]

Never asking for help with anything looks like genuine independence and strength from the outside.

Honestly think it's more about pride than any actual virtue if I'm being fully truthful with myself. Would genuinely like to be talked out of this one if anyone's got a good counterargument